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Parent Support is simply parental behavior towards their children in all aspects of their lives. Your parenting patterns can influence your Child’s life in various ways. From your child’s weight to what she thinks of herself.

It’s very crucial that your parenting style results in the best growth and development. The way parents connect and discipline their children will affect their behavior for the rest of their lives. Researchers have pointed out four examples of parenting styles which will be discussed here.

  1. Authoritarian Parenting
  2. Authoritative parenting
  3. Permissive parenting
  4. Uninvolved parenting

These different Methods of Parenting Support have various characteristics with various results.

 

Authoritarian Parenting

Does any of these attitudes feel like you?

  • You act strictly towards kids.
  • You think your rules must stand without objections by your kids.
  • Your kid’s emotions barely matter to you.
  • You are conscious of your kid’s safety.

You are an authoritarian parent if it’s a ‘yes’ to the above. Authoritarian parents are of the opinion that kids should adhere to all their instructions without exceptions.

It is true of authoritarian parents to say, “That’s how I want it done” if their kids question their orders. Their kids must obey their instructions at all times. They do not seek the opinion of their children on certain issues, they act in their own way with no regard to their kid’s option. 

They also don’t allow kids to get involved in problem-solving challenges or obstacles. Instead, they make the rules and enforce the consequences with little regard for a child’s opinion. 

Authoritarian parents feel it is right to punish children instead of discipline them. So They make their kids feel guilty of their wrongs instead of teaching them the better way.

Positive Effect

Children with authoritative parents tend to be the following:

  • Goal-oriented
  • Safety Conscious
  • well behaved
  • Academically successful
  • Independent

Negative Effect

bad effect of authoritarian parenting includes:

  • Low-self esteem
  • Aggressive
  •  Shy
  • good Liars

Authoritative Parenting

Does any of this attitude look like you?

  • You create and keep a positive attitude or connection with your child.
  • You give reasons for your rules.
  • You are conscious of your kid’s emotions when you enforce rules.
  • disobedience comes with disciplinary consequences

If these statements seem like you, then, you are surely an authoritative parent. Authoritative parents give rules and there are consequences that follow but their children’s opinions count too. They acknowledge their children’s emotions while making them understand that the parents are definitely in charge.

Parents who are authoritative are flexible and meek. They prefer to use a better approach t discipline their children and enforce good behavior.

Positive Effects

  • Responsible Adults
  • bold
  • Opinionated
  •  Academically Succesful
  • Open-minded
  • Will behaved

Negative Effects

This is not the best parenting style but it has no negative effect according to researchers.

Permissive Parenting

Do you act in any of these ways?

  • You make rules but mostly do not enforce them.
  • No serious consequences for disobedience.
  • Kids learn better with no/little involvement from parents

A permissive parent sounds like this. Permissive parents are tolerating. They only get involved when something serious happens.

They’re quite lenient and forgiving and think “kids will be kids”. They have no strategy for punishment. They tend to forgive their kids if they beg or cry. They let their kids go on play-dates if they promise not to mess up. 

Permissive parents are friends than parents to their kids. They give listening ears to their kids and tend not to strictly warn their kids from bad behaviors.

Positive Effects

  • Better Communication.
  • Improved Self-Esteem
  • Enhanced Imagination
  • Increased Positivity

Negative Effects 

  • Risky Behavior
  • Undeveloped Coping Skills
  • Lack of Boundaries
  • Disrespect
  • Defiance

Uninvolved Parenting

Do these behaviors ring a bell?

  • You are not concerned about your kid’s homework or school.
  • You hardly know where your child is or who he/she is with.
  • You don’t have a parent-child time with your kids.
  • You don’t spend much time with your child.

If these statements look like you,  you are definitely an Uninvolved parent. 

Parents that are uninvolved rarely know what their children are up to. There tend to be no/little rules. No interference,  guidance,  and parental control.

Uninvolved parents contemplate that their kids should raise and make rules for themselves. They do not provide for their kid’s basic needs. Uninvolved parents may be inattentive but it’s not always deliberate. 

sometimes, uninvolved parents have no knowledge of child growth and development and are mostly busy with issues like work, paying bills, and managing the home.

Positive Effects

Researchers conclude that this type of parenting is the worst parenting style and should not be adopted as it is no good effect whatsoever.

Negative Effects

  • Anxiety
  • Emotionally  withdrawn or depressed
  • Dependent on other people
  • Highrisk of substance abuse
  •  Delinquent behavior during adolescence

Truly, Parents do not only fit into one of these Parenting styles. it is obvious for some to be both authoritative at a particular point and permissive at the other point.

Clearly, however, authoritative parenting is the most outstanding parenting style.  Although some parents want to inculcate these parenting styles at different times, there are ways to adopt mostly the authoritative style. 

With utmost enthusiasm in trying to be the best parent to your kids, you can keep a constructive relationship with your kids and still enforce your authority in a positive manner. In a shorter period of time, you will notice the numerous benefits of being an authoritative parent on your child.

 

Types Of Support

 The types of Parent support includes the following:

  • Practical support


    This is assistance with the everyday realities of parenthood and performing as a family. Support of this type has to do with money, babysitters, assistance during emergencies, help with transport, assistance with household chores, and people to have fun with.

    People who would likely provide this type of support include extended family members, friends, teachers, coaches, club leaders, neighbors, religious Heads, parents of your children’s friends, and more.

     

  • Personal support

    Confident, Thumbs, Thumbs Up, Happy
    This type of support is basically for you. You could oftentimes get this support from your grown-up friendships and relationships. The most treasured personal support is usually from those who are readily available and eager to listen and give ideas and talk about certain issues without being judgemental but staying positive.

    The best way for this is to find someone who understands because you probably share certain things in common. It could be great friends from school or parent groups.

     

  • Information support

     

    Parenting task is not as easy as we think therefore, you need a good knowledge of parenting before getting involved in it. It is the right thing for parents to do. You can read recommended books on parenting or you seek advice from other parents and friends when you have little parenting issues like breastfeeding, how to manage your kids, and work. and so on.

     Different people will definitely come up with different answers so it’s up to you to consider the one that is best or feels right for you and your child. If your topic is a serious one, then you should seek answers or advice from a qualified person.  

    Information Support can be gotten from the following ways too:

  • Parenting and family support organisations

  • Child health and wellbeing centres and organizations

  • Parenting groups and playgroups

  • Schools

  • Babysitting clubs

  • Libraries

  • Government departments.

 

Parenting Support Approach

The Parenting Support Approach is a system that acknowledges the need for offering useful programs and services for parents.

This support approach is interested in the relationship of the Parents and their kids, as well as the effect of their parenting on their kids when relating with other family members. They ensure support in the following ways:

Lifecourse

Life-course ensures that parents have supports from the beginning stage of the children’s life that is from pregnancy to childbirth and then to teenage years and so on. This parenting support follows these stages:

  • Getting ready or becoming a parent.
  • From birth to 5years
  • from 6years to 12years
  • from 13 to 17 years

Levels of Need

The Child and Family Agency understands how tedious and consuming parenting can be and that support is necessary at different levels and at different times considering the lifecourse of their family. Effective services provided at different levels are:

First, Providing Parenting services to all families (universal support)

Second, Providing services for families at risk or facing difficult challenges.

Third,  Providing services for families who are experiencing serious issues in one of the phases of the lifecourse like child Protection.

Fourth, Parents of children that are in statutory care in the Child and Family Agency are also supported. They are given the opportunity to see their kids and create a better relationship with them.

Action Plan

Team Spirit, Teamwork, Community

This Parenting Support Style will be achieved through four goals and they are: 

  • Parenting Support is a constructive work of the Child and Family Agency. Parenting supports has important services that are made available for children, parents, and families in every area.
  • Our best services will be offered when rendering supports and services to children, parents, and Families.
  • Parenting supports and services will be made readily available in every area, at all phases of the lifecourse, and at all need levels.
  • The supports and services given to parents are the best because they are favorable and available.

Summary

Parenting as we know is not is an easy task. Here we are with the four different parenting styles, types of parent support, and the different parenting support approaches and services.

What type of parent am I? Do I treat my kids the right way? Does my attitude towards my kids affect their growth and development?  Do I need parent support? What type of parent support do I need? and What level of need am I?

Do these questions sound familiar? Read through and you will definitely get answers to your issues and more. To get help, visit our  Services & Support section

 

 

 

 

 

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